There comes a time in every gay’s life when they have to consider the question – to baby, or not to baby?

Some people find this question easy to answer – they’re either so chock full of maternal oozy-gooey goodness (case in point my wife) that the answer is an obvious yes. Or, they don’t have a maternal bone in their body and hate the thought of little ankle biters running around, and the answer becomes an uncomplicated no.

But some people, such as myself, are a little more stuck in Switzerland. I like kids, I do. They’re cute and funny and ready to be moulded into cool little dudes & dudettes. But they also ruin your life! Parenthood means the end of those nights spent spontaneously going to wine bars, catching a show, hopping a plane for a long weekend… Gone are the times of backpacking aimlessly or travelling cheaply through third world countries. Oh, and I hear the sex goes too. A+ for that one! According to the oozy-gooey maternal types, all of those obstacles can be navigated with family support, kids clubs on holidays and a sleep routine that allows for alone time. But ask the DINKs and they’ll swear that nothing will ever be the same, you’ll have no money, no life, no sex, no sleep AND your kids will probably turn out to be little pricks who hate you anyway. Thus for in-betweeners like me, the answer is never simple. I like money and travel and sex and sleep but I also like kids. What to do?

Fortunately (or maybe unfortunately, its too early to tell), I was tipped off the rhetorical wall of Switzerland and into the land of babies by my charming wife. Now I don’t mean that she convinced or forced me onto the ‘yes’ side of children, but when you’re living in a world of neutral and you kind of want babies and you do like kids but you’re just not sure you’re ready… having a wife who wants one more than anything is enough to tilt the table. So here I am, or we are. Two gays and a (maybe) baby.

Oh, and she bought me this hilarious book – “Babies don’t suck.” I’m not sure its peer reviewed literature, but it helped to sway me just a little 😉